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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Being "Stuck On a Painful Image" keeps us Stuck in the Grief (Published 12-13-11)


My Husband passed away just last year, I tried with all my might to breathe air into his asthmatic lungs. I watched as he choked and looked up and rolled his eyes. I tried and tried and could not revive him! Now I have that image in my head of his struggling for air. Over and over it plays. I find it hard to breathe now some nine months later. I also lost my step father and father-in-law all within several months of my husband's death. The grief is so heavy. I find it hard to get past everything! It all haunts me daily.I don't know what I should do. I have kept all my daily routines, working still, but nothing helps me with the heavy grief, crying, and the image of his not being able to breath.

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    October 2015
    Wilmington, DE - Oct 2-5, 2015
    Portland, OR - Oct 2-5, 2015
    Hobart, Tasmania, Australia - Oct 8-11, 2015
    San Diego, CA - Oct 16-19, 2015
    Louisville, KY - Oct 16-19, 2015
    Guadalajara, Jal, Mexico - Oct 22-25, 2015
    Edmonton, AB, Canada - Oct 23-26, 2015
    Denver, CO - Oct 23-26, 2015

    November 2015
    Chicago, IL - Nov 6-9, 2015
    Sydney, Australia - Nov 12-15, 2015
    Nashville, TN - Nov 13-16, 2015
    San Francisco, CA - Nov 13-16, 2015
    Reading, England - Nov 20-23, 2015
    Monterrey, N.L., Mexico - Nov 27-39, 2015

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