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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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The warm and fuzzies that never happened. (Published 2/28/2011)


My mother recently passed away at the age of 94 and the Christmas holidays were extremely difficult. Even though my mother lived a long life, we didn't get along too well during my younger days and there was much resentment. Now I feel guilty but devastated that I still bear hard feelings, yet am so sad that my mother is gone and we never became loving mother and daughter. How can I overcome the sadness and the guilt?

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Workshops & Training Schedule

The Grief Recovery Institute ® offers Certification Training programs for those who wish to help grievers.

    October 2016
    Atlanta, GA -October 7-10, 2016
    Bend, OR - October 7-10, 2016
    Rochester, NY - October 7-10, 2016
    Toronto, ON, Canada - October 14-17, 2016
    Scottsdale, AZ - October 14-17, 2016
    Sydney, NSW, Australia - October 15-18, 2016
    Kansas City, KS - October 28-31, 2016
    November 2016
    Reading, England - November 4-7, 2016
    San Diego, CA - November 11-14, 2016
    Nashville, TN - November 11-14, 2016
    Denver, CO - November 11-14, 2016
    Edmonton, AB, Canada - Nov 18-21, 2016
    Los Angeles, CA - November 18-21, 2016
    Princeton, NJ - November 18-21, 2016

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